1. Waste time feeling sorry for themselves: Don't feel sorry for your circumstances or dwell on the way you have been mistreated. Be aware and learn from your mistakes, then move on.
2. Listen to anyone who tries to make them feel bad about themselves. Know your strengths and abilities and manage how you respond. Be the master of your fate and the Captain of your soul.
3. Waste time and energy trying to change what they can't. Don't complain about bad traffic, late trains, or other people. Accept what you cannot change and control that which you can - like your own responses and attitudes.
4. Worry about pleasing others: People-pleasers or people who dis-please others to get attention are not strong people. They are either weak and hiding themselves, manipulative or possibly both. Don't be afraid to speak your mind. If some one gets upset, so be it. Please others when it is appropriate but with tact and grace.
5. Fear taking chances. Don't jbe a fool. Calculate and weigh the benefits or worst-case-scenario of each step before you take action. Look before you leap.
- CLICK HERE TO SEE TODAY'S TIMTIM COMIC CARTOON -
6. Worry about what could have been. Accept your mistakes, learn from your successes, and move on. Don't get bogged down in fantasies of "the good old days" or punish yourself for past errors. Embrace change and welcome challenge. Change and uncertainty energise a strong person to do their best.
7. Envy other people's success. Recognise and rejoice with others when they do good, but take notes. Channel your reaction and remember how hard they were willing to work, all the hours they put in, all the hurdles they have overcome.
8. Allow disadvantage and failure to stop them. Overcoming disadvantages forces you to dig deeper, work harder, be more resourceful. Most great success stories come after a long list of near misses or failures. Learning to deal with failure is good preparation for the business world. The trick is not to make a habit of it.
9. Expect the world to give them anything. It matters not how well educated or prepared you are. Mentally strong people should be prepared for rough times, lack of recognition, and devious behaviour from those above and below them. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
10. Expect quick and easy success. A life change or starting aa new project requires that persistence and dedication. Apply your energy, celebrate each small victory, but remember that real change takes time. Develop staying power - stick with it.